How To Build Trust With People

"How do you gain the permission of people to talk to them in a way they want to be talked to?" -- Seth Godin

Essentially what you are asking is how do I gain the trust of people so that I can say the things I want to say to hopefully inspire the change I want to see in the world? Nowadays everyone has an opinion. You can launch Facebook and see your feed littered with the ideas and opinions of others. Some you agree with, some you ignore, some make you shutter. Our world today has made it phenomenally easier for all of us to share our thoughts with those around the world.


I would venture to say that the vast majority of us who share our ideas on a platform, like Facebook, do so with an intention to connect with people. We either want to connect with those who are like minded, or possibly even affect the opinions of those that may vary from us. However, some are missing the keystone which allows you to actually impact change, no matter the scale. What is the missing link?


You will rarely, if ever, be able to speak to people the way you want to speak to them in order to impact change if you have not already received their permission by establishing trust.


Think about it, have you established the trust you need to truly be able to impact the change you want to see in the world? Some of you may be thinking, "Well, of course I have! They are my friends on social media, why wouldn't they trust me?" that is an asinine way of thinking. I am not saying you can't affect people that you are friends with on social media, however, how often do you actually interact with the people you are "friends" with on social media?


"Being authentic and showing up for people is how you begin to gain their trust so you can impact change."



I have 537 "friends" on Facebook.  Do you know how many of them I interact with on a daily basis? I'll give you a hint… I can count them on my fingers and toes. That doesn't mean I don't care about the 537 people I know, it simply means that I understand that I am not going to be able to affect the change I want to see in the world with all of those 537 people. Heck! I may not even be able to affect change with 10 of those people. However, that does not mean that I am not going to be as authentic as I can. Being authentic and showing up for people is how you begin to gain their trust so you can impact change.


You never know, what you say and do may not matter to everyone, but it will probably matter to someone. 


Some things you may enjoy if you liked this post:

Seth Godin -- Seth is an amazing author and one of the most prolific individuals of our time. He has written several book, many of which are favorites of mine, and helped inspire change in the world.  

Marie Forleo -- Another truly inspiring individual who helps people build a life and business they love. Here she interviewed Seth Godin, and it was awesome!

How to Win Friends and Influence People -- Awesome book! If you're looking for a way to amp up your communication and leadership skills, check it out. You can also find my book review here!



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