How to Find a Coach or Mentor


Have you ever found yourself saying,


"If only I had someone to push me to accomplish the things I want in life, then my life would really start moving in the right direction"


Let me tell you something, if that is your philosophy, you will always be waiting. People aren't going to come to you and push you to be your best. I think, at some level, we all want that person in shining armor to swoop in to save the day, and our lives. However, life doesn't really work that way.


It is your responsibility to mold your life. No ifs, ands or buts -- your responsibility. With that said, there are absolutely people that can be mentors or coaches to you, but you have to go out and find them. On that note you may be thinking, but I don't have the money to pay for something like that. However, seeking help doesn't equate to paying for help. You don't have to pay for a mentor, and you should not let your lack of finances be a reason for not pushing forward. Nowadays we have access to people who are doing great things and are producing a lot of really great content. Find their content. Listen to their podcast, watch their YouTube video, buy their book. Do the things that makes sense for you and your budget. Your options are limitless, but you have to take those steps. You can admire someone's work and consider them a mentor in life without actually interacting with them


Find people that are producing great content in your area of interest and absorb as much of it as you can.


If you don't know where to find these people, start keeping your eyes peeled, the moment you make your self open to finding a mentor is the moment you will realize that they have been around you the whole time, you've just never truly looked. Below are some of the people I have found most inspiring on my journey. Also! Once you start to follow one, they will often introduce you to other leaders.


  • Marie Forleo

  • Gary Vaynerchuk

  • Seth Godin

  • Bo Eason

  • Shawn Stevenson

  • Gabby Bernstein

  • Simon Sinek


I encourage you to take a look at all of the and see if any of them resonate with you. If after you do your research you still want the one on one guidance of a coach or mentor, by all means find one and hire one, but find someone that you are aligned with and admire.


Don't let your inability to pay for a mentor inhibit you from taking action to make positive changes in your life.


To me, this is fear. Fear of failing. Fear that you lack the ability. You can't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game (baseball reference). You have to dive in to really see what you can do.


The easiest example that I can think of is related to health and fitness. There are so many people out there that don't take action to making positive changes in their life because they can't pay for a trainer, or they don't know what to do. Again, this is one of the most asinine excuses out there! We live in an age of information. Go to YouTube, find what you're looking for -- experiment. Experimenting and failing is a lot better than not even trying. If you've tried something, at least you know what doesn't work and can try something else.


Here are some tips for finding a Mentor:

  1. Remember, you don't have to pay for someone to be your your mentor. Nowadays there are tons of people that are putting our some truly amazing (and free) content. Check them out. I've listed some of my favorites above.

  2. YouTube, Podcasts and Facebook are great ways to find people that are talking about the topics you want to learn about! Try using for of your favorite keywords or hashtags to narrow down your search of people.

  3. If you truly like admire someone's work, support them. Not all of us can afford the price of a personal coach or mentor, but most of us can afford their books or become engaged with them on their various platforms. If you find someone you're a fan of, support their work!


Some things you may enjoy if you liked this post:


Shawn Stevenson's Interview with Bo Eason about realizing your true potential and conquering it.


Marie Forleo's interview with Simon Sinek about Leadership and the paradigm shift that needs to occur if we want to have the relationships we truly desire. 


Gary Vaynerchuk's video, this is your one at bat. You should also check out his Facebook page if you haven't already.