Adulting Tip: Remember Names
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
by any other name would smell as sweet…"
Juliet's famous line in Shakespeare's play Romeo and Juliet implies that a name means nothing. However, what she failed to recognize is that
"…a person's name is to that person the sweetest and mostimportant sound in any language."
True, to Juliet's point, we should all be able to love whomever we choose without prosecution or judgement. Regardless, in our day to day dealings, a name can change the course of a given interaction. Use a name properly and you may not notice a change in your interaction, however, blunder or forget a name and you can be certain that the exchange with that person will be affected.
It was in the midst of reading How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie, that this point was made abundantly clear to me. You see, I work in a retail business. Nothing special, just the average exchange of goods, yet this is where the egregious crime took place. I witnessed the entire interaction unfold and every fiber of my being wanted to hide from the condemning glare shot between the new employee and the store manager.
In this moment, both were completely unaware that they had just illustrated beautifully a principle in this book I was reading. I can't help but think that the day, and the beginning of their relationship would have been different had the infraction never occurred.
In your dealings as an adult, you should make every effort to remember people's names. I am always pleased when I see the look on someone's face when I remember a small detail about them or their name. Their body language changes instantly and they perk up.
Rest assured that remembering peoples name and using them gives you the upper hand in your interactions. People will instantly soften and be more receptive to anything you say to them. If you're skeptical, conduct and experiment of your own. Over the course of a week, make an effort to remember and use peoples name when talking to them. Repeat it throughout the conversation. You may be surprised when you see the noticeable change in body language and how they respond to you.